27-year-old's entitled mother tries to cancel her daughter's wedding because she doesn't approve of the venue: 'You’re seriously going to make people sit outside like they’re in a field? That’s so low-class!'

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    1 27F am getting married next month to my amazing fiancé 29M. We have been planning this for almost a year. My mom however has had a problem with every single decision I have made. First, she didn't like the dress because it "wasn't traditional enough." Then she complained about the guest list
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    because I didn't invite her cousin who I literally haven't seen in 15 years. But the final straw came last week. We chose a beautiful outdoor venue at a garden estate. It's peaceful, elegant, and very us.
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    When I told my mom, she lost it. "You're seriously going to make people sit outside like they're in a field? That's so low-class. I'm embarrassed for you."
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    I calmly explained that it's what i and my fiancee want, and that we are covering the cost. Her response?
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    "Then I won't come. And neither will anyone from our family. In fact, if you don't change it, I think you should just cancel the whole wedding. It's already a mess."
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    She has been telling relatives that I'm disrespecting her as my mother. A few of them are actually taking her side.
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    I'm honestly heartbroken but also exhausted. I'm starting to realize this day might not be about making her happy and that's okay.
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    Odd-Divide3651 · 1h ago • Its very simple.. who is getting married and want to be it their day? All the other opinion does't matter.
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    Embarrassed_Hat... • 1h ago We will miss you mom, and anyone you decide to talk out of going to my wedding, but it's my wedding, not yours.
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    Sweet-Pickle637 OP 1h ago Just never expected my own mom to try and sabotage my wedding because she didn't get her way.
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    HunterGreenLeaves 1h ago Extend the RSVPs. Those that don't come, don't come. Those that do are ones you know are part of your circle of trust.
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    dehydratedrain ⚫ 1h ago Have the wedding of your dreams. Even if you put it in her venue, wearing her dress, she will complain that the tablecloths are the wrong shade.
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    I'm sorry that she is involving your family like this. Hopefully you can find a resolution, or peace with a lower contact relationship.
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    NonRepairable • 1h ago You need to look her stone cold de d in the face and say " I'm sorry if your wedding wasn't what you wanted. It doesn't give you
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    the right to highjack and sabotage mine." If you are going to get blamed for being disrespectful, you might as well actually be it.
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    Karmageddon3333 · 1h ago • Frankly, I'd tell her if that's how she feels you'd rather she not be there. She and her cousin can go bowling that day. Also, outdoor weddings are the best. Enjoy your day.
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    midwest73 • 1h ago Your wedding, not hers and her family. Do how you two want it done. Uninvite her and any people that agree. If they have security, explicitly have it stated they are not allowed. After that, enjoy your new life and walk away from your Mom's life.
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    No-Passenger1983 · 1h ago . I am not sure this will help you but I am a 69 year old woman that has always adhered to the philosophy that I can't control other people's actions but I can control my reaction to them.
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    This is an attempt for control by assuming you would rather adhere to her demands than chance not having her there. Call her bluff! Calmly tell her that although you would be disappointed if she chose
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    not to come it is ultimately her choice. In the long run if she chooses not to come then it would indicate it is more about the control than being there for her daughter
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    and you might have to reevaluate that relationship in the future. I hope you have a nice wedding and don't let anyone change your dream not even your mother

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